Saturday, April 22, 2017
Think 4:8 by Tommy Newberry & Lyn Smith
Friday, November 28, 2008
The 4:8 Principle by Tommy Newberry
Newberry takes the title of his book, and his theme, from Philippians 4:8. The verse is an admonition to think on good things. According to Newberry, our potential for joy in life is greatly influenced by our predominate thoughts.
The book has three major divisions dealing with the development of a joyful life: thinking and self-worth, emotion management, and developing good habits. The first section may be old ground for those who’ve read similar books. It asserts the connection between our typical thoughts and the results in our mind and actions. If we want more joy, we must think on those things that bring joy. To have a healthy expectation of joy, we must have an appropriate self-image. Newberry gears his book toward a Christian audience and defines self-worth as “authentic self-esteem rooted in your uniqueness as a child of God.”
Thoughts and emotions are not independent. They influence each other. Because of this, we can affect reduce negative emotions and increase positive emotions by out thoughts and the way we look at situations. Newberry devotes a chapter to identifying thought habits that magnify negative emotions and strategies for developing new thinking for better emotional responses. He provides a list of Bible verses that one can dwell on to help combat negative reactions.
The final section deals with lifestyle changes that support joy. It is about taking control of your environment, associations and behavior to protect yourself from negativity and concentrate on joy. Not everything is in our control, but the idea is to respond productively to negativity rather than simply reacting by reproducing the negativity in ourselves.
As part of this, the final chapter is devoted to gratitude. Gratitude is a powerful supporter of joy. One of the best habits to develop to increase joy is to consider what you have to be thankful for and express that gratitude.
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.
-Philippians 4:8 (NKJV)
Saturday, June 10, 2017
As a Man Thinketh by James Allen
Saturday, January 26, 2019
Happiness is a Choice by Barry Neil Kaufman
Saturday, April 29, 2017
The Five Secrets You Must Discover Before You Die by John Izzo
Friday, August 10, 2012
Just Say Thanks! by R. T. Kendall
Monday, November 8, 2010
Tuesday, March 5, 2013
Life's Not Fair, but God is Good by Robert H. Schuller
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
365 Thank Yous by John Kralik
365 Thank Yous is, thankfully, not a collection of daily thank you notes. Author and jurist John Kralik set out to write 365 thanks in a year and tells the story of how it changed his life in this book.
Kralik's life was not what he wanted it to be. He had two divorces and another shaky relationship, was alienated from his children, disillusioned with his law career, a failing in his business. Everywhere he looked, he saw mounting problems. He was not grateful—he didn’t know how to spell the word—and he was no reason to be grateful.
A conversation with a friend and a remembrance of his grandfather inspired him to make a New Year’s resolution to write a daily thank you note for a year. It changed both his perspective and the conditions of his life.
I think the change of perspective may be most important. We all have problems and most of us find them to be obvious and easy to remember; we’re surrounded by reminders of our problems. It can be overwhelming. We also have things for which to be grateful, but we sometimes have to strain to think of them.
Kralik’s exercise forced him to look for things to be thankful about. In time, in spite of setback, it became easier for him to find and express gratitude.
I think this change in perspective lead to the changes in his life. He was able to see things to which he was previously blind. The vision of these new opportunities opened the door for new actions. Change in his behavior had new results in his family, business and career.
In fact, in the space of a little more than a year, Kralik went from having his dreams slip away to having almost all that he wanted. He had better relationships with his family, his business was recovering, and he received his dream appointment as a judge.
His life wasn’t perfect. He still had problems. His relationship with his girlfriend was improving, but not all he hoped it could be.
Kralik attributes his turnaround to the practice of finding what he is grateful for and expressing his thanks, especially in writing. I think this is right; his change in circumstances seems to be a result of the change in his viewpoint and behavior related to his practice of gratitude.
Gratitude opens our eyes to the good and valuable people, situations and things in our lives, even if we have to strain to see them. The more we look for them, the easier they become to find. As we get a new view on our lives, especially a more positive light, we can see pathways that aren’t clear when we’re focused on our problems.
If you’re interested in this book, you may also be interested in
The 4:8 Principle by Tommy Newberry
Gratitude by Melody Beattie
Thanks! by Robert A. Emmons
Why Good Things Happen to Good People by Stephen Post and Jill Neimark
Thursday, January 1, 2009
25 Book Reviews Posted on Keenan’s Book Reviews
The 4:8 Principle by Tommy Newberry
A Politically Incorrect Guide to Western Civilization by Anthony Esolen
The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay by Michael Chabon
Awakening the Entrepreneur Within by Michael Gerber
The Big Necessity by Rose George
The Book of Lies by Brad Meltzer
Buried Alive by Jan Bondeson
Case Closed (Vol. 2) by Gosho Ayoama
Chance by Amir Aczel
The Chinatown Death Cloud Peril by Paul Malmont
Dreams of Iron and Steel by Deborah Cadbury
Epic by John Eldredge
Good Dog. Stay. by Anna Quindlen
The Great Stink by Clare Clark
Happier by Tal Ben-Shahar
His Excellency by Joseph J. Ellis
The Leadership Triad by Dale E. Zand
The Lighthouse Stevensons by Bella Bathurst
Luke (Holy Bible)
One Small Step Can Change Your Life by Robert Maurer
Red Harvest by Dashiell Hammett
The Science of Leonardo by Fritjof Capra
Undaunted Courage by Stephen Ambrose
The Vulnerable Fortress by James R. Taylor and Elizabeth J. Van Every
Walking with God by John Eldredge
Tuesday, July 24, 2012
Stop Whining, Start Living by Dr. Laura
We make ourselves crazy.
We can stop doing it. That is the
message Laura Schlessinger, popularly known as Dr. Laura, present in her book Stop Whining, Start Living.
So much of how we make ourselves miserable is how we look at
things. Life is difficult, for some
people more than others. If we focus on
difficulties, problems, and situations we don’t like, we’ll feel the weight of
them. If instead we focus on the things
in life we enjoy, that encourage us, and the people we love and who love use,
we’ll feel the lightness of it. Perspective
doesn’t make problems go away, but a good point of view can keep us from
ignoring the good things in our lives.
Relating to this is the need for action. Our complaints don’t change the situations we
complain about. Action, especially acts
that help others, make the world better and help us feel better. As Schlessinger puts it, “ultimate meaning fullness
in our lives comes from fulfilling our obligations to others.”
Stop Whining, Start
Living presents variations on these two themes, focusing on different areas
of life, especially relationships. She devotes a chapter to marriage. Even here, a happy marriage is largely a
matter of looking at the things you love about your spouse and not accentuating
the negative. Act lovingly toward your
spouse.
As the title “doctor” implies, Schlessinger has academic
training and is licensed in marriage and family
therapy. Her book is not academic or professional in
tone. She is conversational.
Schlessinger draws many examples from communication she had
with listeners of her radio
program. Sometimes she refers to
difficult and emotionally charged situations.
These examples make her advice more powerful and approachable.
On that radio program, Schlessinger developed a reputation for
being confrontational. It comes through
in this book, too. I don’t think this comes
from meanness. She’s out to expose the thinking
that underlays complaining and present an alternative. Even in the nicest exchange, that is a little
confrontational.
If you’re interested in this book, you may also be
interested in
On that radio program, Schlessinger developed a reputation for being confrontational. It comes through in this book, too. I don’t think this comes from meanness. She’s out to expose the thinking that underlays complaining and present an alternative. Even in the nicest exchange, that is a little confrontational.
Sunday, April 25, 2021
Happiness is a Choice by Frank B. Minirth and Paul D Meier
I’ve been reading a lot about anxiety and depression lately, and it has led me to some older books, such as Happiness is a Choice by psychiatrists Frank B. Minirth and Paul D. Meier. The book appears to be written for a mixed audience of therapists who may be treating patients with depression and people who may pick up the book as a self-help guide. If depression is affecting your life, I recommend you talk to your physician or reach out for appropriate counseling; there are effective therapies and in some cases drugs may be appropropriate.
The book may be broken into three major parts. The first deals with the symptoms of depression. Though it is fairly widely know now (thanks largely to drug advertising), it was probably less known in 1978 when this book was published, that there are physical symptoms to depression. Feeling bad emotionally can make us feel bad physically and vice-versa.
The second part deals with the causes of depression. These are particularly stress and trauma. We all face trauma in life, and it does not have to be “major” to result in depression. We all grieve losses, get angry over the way we or others are mistreated, face dysfunction in relationships and countless other stresses and traumas. Any of us may suffer a blow that leads to depression.
“Who gets depressed? At some period of life, nearly everyone does!” Frank B. Minirth and Paul D. Meier, Happiness is a Choice
Finally, they deal with the treatment of depression. Much of Minirth and Meier’s advice deals with thinking and relationships. Therapy may occur at a counselor’s office, but healing takes place in everyday life, thoughts and relationships.
The book also contains appendices that deal with things that may be of more interest to therapist. These include a few very brief case studies, a short chapter on the biology of depression and additional information on various types of treatment.
Minirth and Meier are known as Christian counselors who discuss faith alongside medicine. This book is no exception. The authors reference the Bible and draw lessons from it. Though many may find useful advice in this book, I think it would especially appeal to Christian who are seeking help that is consistent with their faith. Their advice on overcoming depression and anxiety is rooted in their religion.
If you’re interested in this book, you may also be interested in
Anxious for Nothing by Max Lucado
The Mindful Way through
Depression by
Mark Williams, John Teasdale, Zindal Segal & Joh Kabat-Zinn
Rewire Your Anxious Brain by
Catherine M. Pittman & Elizabeth M. Karle
The Solution by Lucinda Bassett
Think 4:8 by Tommy Newberry & Lyn Smith
12 “Christian” Beliefs That Can Drive You Crazy by Henry
Cloud & John Townsend
Minirth, Frank B., and Paul D. Meier. Happiness is a Choice: A Manual on the Symptoms, Causes and Cures of Depression. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker House, 1978.
In Pursuit of Happiness by Frank Minirth
Happiness is something we can produce, at least in part, from the choices we make and the things we do. Psychiatrist Frank Minirth emphasizes the choices that lead to happiness in his book, In Pursuit of Happiness.
Minirth is particularly known for his work in Christian
psychology.
The book is full of references to the Bible, with
scriptures selected to provide advice in several areas of life that have a
strong effect no happiness. I found this to be one of the best parts of the
book.
The author is also a medical
doctor. As such, he also believes that some can benefit from drugs, other
medical treatment and psychological counseling. He emphasizes the power of God,
but he does not minimize the benefits of medicine. The main body of the book
does not deal much with the medical treatment of depression, anxiety or
other treatable disorders that affect happiness other to point to the potential
benefits of medical treatment. However, the book includes several appendices on
the biological
causes and medical treatment (including drugs) of anxiety, depression, dementia
and other diseases.
Most of the book is very easy to read. Each chapter plainly
follows an outline and flows from subject to subject. To a great degree,
readers may skip around to the chapters that are most relevant to them and
still make sense of the book.
If you’re
interested in this book, you may also be interested in
Anxious
for Nothing by Max Lucado
The
Beethoven Factor by Paul
Pearsall
The
Five Secrets You Must Discover Before You Die by John Izzo
Happiness
is a Choice by Barry Neil
Kaufman
I
Can Make You Happy by Paul
McKenna
The
Instinct to Heal by David
Servan-Schreiber
It's
Not Always Depression by
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Language
and the Pursuit of Happiness by
Chalmers Brothers
Lost
Connections by Hari Johnson
The
100 Simple Secrets of Happy People by David Niven
100
Ways to Happiness by Timothy
Sharp
Rewire
Your Anxious Brain by
Catherine M. Pittman & Elizabeth M. Karle
Secrets
You Keep from Yourself by
Dan Neuharth
The
Solution by Lucinda Bassett
Think 4:8 by Tommy Newberry & Lyn
Smith
Minirth, Frank. In
Pursuit of Happiness: Choices that Can Change Your Life. Grand
Rapids, MI: Fleming
H. Revell, 2004.