Friday, January 8, 2010
The 4-Hour Workweek by Timothy Ferriss
The 4-Hour Workweek sounds like a dream only the independently wealthy and part-time retirees can enjoy. Timothy Ferriss has written about how the new rich enjoy independence now, without spending decades saving up for it.
Ferris describes four steps the new rich follow to achieve their lifestyle. They make a handy acronym: DEAL.
The deal starts with definition. You cannot live the lifestyle you want until you clearly define it. The dream-lining method he describes will encourage you to reach out for those big goals now and not wait.
The next step is elimination. The currency of the new rich is time. They ruthlessly cut out anything that wastes time. If it is not what they want to do, or contributing significantly to their income, they drop it. Ferriss applies the Pareto principle that 80 percent of the results come from 20 percent of the effort. The daring step taken by the new rich is actually cutting out the 80 percent of unproductive activity.
Automation is about freeing up time and making money. The new rich are not interested in accumulating wealth. The idea is to have a stream of income that supports your lifestyle without taking up a lot of your time. Ferriss calls these income sources “muses.” They amount to automatic business that run with very little of your direct involvement.
This part of the book focuses on how to lead the lifestyle you want, especially if it involves travel. Ferriss likes to travel and found it is inexpensive to spend extended periods in other countries. There are many temptations to go back to working for works sake and waste time on things that do no contribute to your lifestyle. The new rich do not allow that stuff to draw them away from the liberation they have won.
The bottom line of the new rich is that it is not about having it all. It is about enjoying what you want most.
Thursday, March 14, 2013
Comic Book Nation by Bradford W. Wright
Sunday, April 17, 2016
Technology in World Civilization by Arnold Pacey
Saturday, November 11, 2017
The Power Makers by Maury Klein
Saturday, July 29, 2017
The Holy Bible
Thursday, June 4, 2020
It's Not Always Depression by Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Depression
and anxiety can be tough to handle and treat. Drugs may treat symptoms, but they do not
cure depression and they typically do not work for long or require ever
increasing doses. Talk based therapies can be helpful, but sometime it take a
long time to get a helpful breakthrough.
Some forms of treatment aim to be more active. One such is accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy, or AEDP. This form of therapy is the basis of the methods described by therapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel in It’s Not Always Depression.
In a nutshell, AEDP sees maladaptive behaviors (defenses) and stressful emotions such as anxiety (inhibitory emotions) as ways to suppress potent core emotions. This can be useful to help us get along in social situations, maintain relationships and keep ourselves from being carried away by strong emotions. This is especially true when we are children and may not have the maturity or power to choose another path. However, we can become stuck in this behavior, never dealing properly with our core emotions, and our inhibitory emotions and defenses can become maladaptive, keeping us from the life and relationships we want and need.
Hendel organizes these items into an equilateral triangle setting on point. Defenses sit at the upper left corner, inhibitory emotions at the upper right, and core emotions at the bottom. Beneath the core emotions is your authentic self, which Hendel calls an openhearted state, in which one feels calm, confident and clear-headed.
Working the triangle is getting in touch with core emotions by finding how our defenses and inhibitory emotions are protecting us from them and the consequences of expressing them. Hendel draws examples from her therapy practice, but the fact that this is a book for a popular audience suggests that this is a technique that people could use on their own as well as in a more formal therapeutic setting. When we acknowledge our core emotions, name them, let ourselves feel them (they will pass) and express them in safe ways (sometimes through fantasy), they lose their potency and move on. By doing this repeatedly we learn that we can handle our emotions in ways that are safe and constructive; we have alternatives to our old defenses and inhibitory emotions and we can let them go. From here we can relax into an openhearted state.
“[W]e cannot think our way through a core emotion; it must be experienced viscerally to be processed,” Hilary Jacobs Hendel, It’s Not Always Depression
Because defenses and inhibitory emotions protect us from core emotions, it can be difficult to know what we are feeling. Emotions are felt in the body, and Hendel describes was of slowing down to scan the body, assess our sensations and use this information to uncover our core emotions.
I’m not a therapist, but I can see the benefit of the framework. It gives someone a way to identify what they are doing and feeling. It can give one words to describe what one is experiencing and a process for exploring that experience. Its ultimate aim is to retrain the brain so one can let go of behaviors that are no longer helpful an embrace new ways of coping that allow for one to feel emotions and at the same time have the calm and clear mind to deal with situations constructively.
It is hard to do justice to these ideas in a few paragraphs. If you are looking for a way to deal with depression and anxiety, this book may be helpful. Even so, if your issues are severe, you should not abandon professional help from a physician or therapist. You may need a guide to help you through the process. There is no shame in that. We all need help when we are learning something new.
If you’re interested in this book, you may also be interested in
The Mindful Way through Depression by Mark Williams et al
The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott
Peck
Hendel, Hilary Jacobs. It’s Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self. New York: Spiegel & Grau, 2018.
Sunday, September 20, 2015
The Organized Mind by Daniel J. Levitin
Friday, July 24, 2009
How Much Does Your Soul Weigh? by Dorie McCubbrey
Dr. Dorie McCubbrey calls herself the “Don’t Diet” Doctor. McCubbrey has a real doctorate in bioengineering. She bases her approach to better health and life from not dieting more on her work as a licensed professional counselor.
Success in weight management and overcoming eating disorders is an inside job. Throughout the book, this is contrasted with the external sources of weight problems and attempts to deal with them.
According to McCubbrey, weight problems have their source in trying to fit ourselves to standards that come from the world around us. Even seemingly healthy people can have weight problems and eating disorders that come from this external orientation. To deal with these, people play “games” which are strategies and behaviors for controlling weight that don’t deal with the real problems.
McCubbrey herself suffered these problems and played many of these games. Her struggles with body image and perfection led hear into anorexia, bulimia, excessive exercise and periods of being overweight.
The solution to these issues, and to the broader issue of living well, is intuitive self-care. Practicing intuitive self-care involves getting in touch with one’s inner wisdom about what is good in eating, exercise and living. It is living from the inside out instead of the outside in.
McCubbrey offers strategies for practicing intuitive self-care. She describes them as feeding the soul. This “diet” for the soul involves learning to love, listen to, and express your true self. To help readers practice this soul diet, she offers several recipes, which are exercises to practice. Some of these deal directly with the way people eat and think about eating. Others are directed toward meditation and discovery of one’s true desires.
The book is in many ways more of a self-help book that a diet plan. It doesn’t focus on changing behavior of lifestyles (lifestyle change is one of the games), but on living from the soul.
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay by Michael Chabon
ISBN 0-679-45004-1
This novel is partly about comic books. It is more about identity, with corollary themes of family, race, nationality, sexuality, talent, profession, and self-expression.
The title characters, Joe Kavalier and Sam Clay, are cousins and creators of comic books during that medium’s golden age. They are fictional counterparts to the writers and artists who took elements from the popular arts of their day, explored the boundaries of a new medium, and created a form of storytelling. For comics fans, Chabon includes plenty of name-dropping and asides into the industry in that era. These elements don’t bog down the story, but fill in the background.
Joe escapes from Prague as a young man just at the Nazis are beginning to implement the isolation of the Jews there. By happenstance, he was born in the Ukraine and eligible for a Soviet passport. His family’s arrangements fail, and he is sent back to Prague. He enlists the help of Bernard Kornblum, an escape artist who taught Joe his art. Together, they smuggle the golem of Prague out of the country. Joe takes a long journey to New York, where he moves in with his aunt, Sam’s mother, and begins his creative partnership with his cousin.
Joe spends the rest of the book involved in escapes, with varying degrees of success. He tries to escape his survivor’s guilt, his grief, his hatred of those who killed his family, love, his own self-isolation.
Sam is a product of New York, an absent father and a caustic mother. He is a hustler, looking to escape poverty and loneliness, and later looking to escape the difficulties of his sexuality. He sees an opportunity in Joe’s artistic talent. Within a day, he persuades his boss, a seller of novelties, to publish a comic book; within a weekend, he manages to get his friends to produce one.
Joe and Sam are naturals to create a comic book superhero. They struggle to be and do things that seem out of their reach. They are like Tom Mayflower and the Escapist, the hero they created. Mayflower is a crippled kid who can only dream of being the great magician he longs to be. As the Escapist, he has the power do above and beyond what he imagined. Nothing can hold him. Through their creations, Joe and Sam engage in fictions that fulfill their own needs. Joe seeks revenge at first, and later seeks and reconciliation with his past. Sam seeks to end his loneliness, both his need for a father and a desire for a kind of love he could not safely pursue.
In the end, escapism becomes not just away to get a break from troubles, but a way of finding oneself. While Sam never becomes fully reconciled with his art, he finally gives himself the freedom to stop fearing and be himself. Joe embraces the comic book, and the escape it permits, as a way of both relieving the pressures of the world and to imaginatively deal with them.
- If your interested in this book, you may also be interested in The Chinatown Death Cloud Peril by Paul Malmont.
Saturday, May 7, 2016
The Writings
Tuesday, January 8, 2013
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Saturday, November 28, 2015
Complaint Free Relationships by Will Bowen
Monday, April 11, 2011
Leviticus
Saturday, November 11, 2017
Solve for Happy by Mo Gawdat
Saturday, April 17, 2021
Loserthink by Scott Adams
America is awash in debate, but it seems there is very little actual discussion or argument happening. Many talk by each other and simply become more entrenched in their positions, or they adopt more extreme, outrageous or nonsensical views. It does not help that politicians and pundits engage in the same kind of thing and seem to encourage it in others. In addition, television and radio broadcasts are full of it, propagating the noise, perhaps emphasizing one side or the other, but rarely providing useful new facts or analysis.
I see this on social
media a lot. I see a lot more people parroting or sharing a juicy
tidbit that they seem to think carries a point (the point is not always clear
and the facts are sometimes just wrong), but I rarely see someone address and
issue with humility, reason or
an admission of uncertainty.
Cartoonist Scott
Adams noticed it in his social media interactions, too. He
attributes some of this to the complexity of
the world we live in and the issues we deal with; human beings are not very
good and understating complexity. In addition, most people aren’t trained to
think productively to produce reasonable solutions. As he put it in his book Loserthink, “Despite evidence to the
contrary, we all use our brains.
But most of us have never learned to think
effectively.”
Loserthink is Adams’ term for unproductive, ineffective
ways of thinking. He generously thinks that people are not stupid, they are
just using unhelpful, unfruitful patterns of thinking. You will get nowhere trying to shame people
for stupidity, but you might get somewhere if you engage people in seeing how
ridiculous is loserthink, and how it produces divisions that generally don’t
benefit us (though it might benefit some).
Most of the book is devoted to identifying common types
of loserthink an how to think more productively. He draws on ways of thinking
from various professions and disciplines in which people are trained in
thinking and problem solving: psychologists, artists, historians, engineers, leaders, entrepreneurs and
economists.
Adams expresses some opinions about political and social
issues that are likely to be controversial to some. Rather than take as
evidence that you are right or that Adams is a dunce, take it as challenge to
think things through for yourself. Test yourself to see if you might be
engaging in loserthink. It might not change your mind, but it is likely to make
you more modest about your certainty in some area, more confident in the workability
of your solutions in others and generally more persuasive
because you have check yourself for loserthink and you can gently help other
address theirs.
Scott Adams also wrote
How to Fail at
Almost Anything and Still Win Big
If
you’re interested in this book, you may also be interested in
Bored and
Brilliant by Manoush Zomorodi
The Checklist
Manifesto by Atul Gawande
Choosing
Civility by P. M. Forni
Freakonomics by Steven D. Levitt & Stephen J. Dubner
Histories and
Fallacies by Carl R. Trueman
How Not to Be
Wrong by Jordan Ellenberg
Six Easy
Pieces by Richard Feynman
The
Thinking Life by P. M. Forni
Adams, Scott. Loserthink:
How Untrained Brains are Ruining America. New
York:
Portfolio/Penguin, 2019.