Sunday, November 9, 2008
Happier by Tal Ben-Shahar
Happier is based on a popular class Dr. Ben-Shahar teaches at Harvard University. The author refers to happiness as the ultimate currency, and in that light, it is not surprising that so many people are seeking more of it.
Ben-Shahar frames happiness as a balance of present and future benefits. Many people sacrifice present pleasure for hopes of a more desirable future; they’re rat-racers. Hedonists seek momentary pleasures without regard for the future. Those who’ve given up on finding happiness in both the present and future are nihilists. Happiness is found in a life that has future benefits that is enjoyable along the way.
Happiness is about more that just pleasure, which is hollow by itself. Happy people lead lives they find meaningful. In a sense, a meaningful life provides the ultimate future benefit. Pairing meaning with enjoyment along the way, present pleasure, leads to happiness. This doesn’t lead to a life free of negative emotions or perpetual positivity; Ben-Shahar thinks that is unrealistic and probably unfulfilling and throughout the book reminds readers of the balanced definition of happiness.
The middle section of the book tackles some of the practical matters of happiness in education, work and relationships. School is all about present sacrifice for future payoff. That mindset can send people in to careers they find to be meaningless drudgery. The same attitudes can come into relationships. Happiness in the real world sometimes means setting aside the expectations of others and society and acting on what you personally find meaningful and pleasurable. Not everyone has the luxury of putting off all obligations and doing their own thing, but nearly everyone can do something to introduce more happiness into their lives.
In closing, Ben-Shahar offers a number of “meditations.” These chapters offer exercises, of both practice and thought, for building happiness on our lives.
Wednesday, May 27, 2020
The Pleasure of Finding Things Out by Richard P. Feynman
The
Pleasure of Finding Things Out
is a collection of interviews and speeches of physicist and Nobel Prize winner Richard P. Feynman. The theme that runs through most of
these items is Feynman’s ideas about what science is and how it is practiced.
The Astounding, the Amazing, and the Unknown by Paul Malmont
Descarte’s Secret Notebook by Amir D.
Aczel
Einstein’s Clocks, Poincare’s Maps:
Empires of Time by
Peter Galison
The Girls of Atomic City by Denise
Kiernan
Newton and the Counterfeiter by Thomas Levenson
The Powerhouse by Steve Levine
Sunday, April 12, 2015
The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde
Saturday, May 7, 2016
Song of Solomon
Ecclesiastes
Sunday, April 17, 2016
You Can, You Will by Joel Osteen
In You Can, You Will, megachurch pastor Joel Osteen
discusses qualities of a winner. Actually, Osteen might say that you’re already
a winner, you just need to start believing and acting one to see in come to
fruition.
First, winners have a vision and they stay focused on in. A practical
way that Osteen suggests to keep your vision before your eyes is to put things
in your environment, like sayings or objects, that remind you of your vision.
Winners stay focused on their goals. In particular,
they don’t get derailed by trying to please everyone or to please people who
are never happy. They know the difference between being kind and generous and
taking improper responsibility for the happiness of others.
Osteen encourages people to expect good things to happen. Reinforce
this belief by actively remembering good things that have happened to you in
the past.
Be positive intentionally. Do your best to enjoy whatever you can in
your current situation, even while you hope and work for something better.
Winners strive for excellence. Do the best you can and look for ways to
improve. Show your desire for excellence by taking care of yourself and your
things.
Always be growing. If you’re not working to improve your abilities,
you’ll get left behind. Besides, if you have big dreams, there are probably many
things you need to learn
and improve on your way to achieving them.
Make service a lifestyles. Try to make life actually better for actual
people. As a bonus, you’ll have more satisfaction with life.
Finally, be enthusiastic. Stir up your passion. It’s easy to get bogged
down and discouraged, so you have to intentionally maintain a good attitude that
will carry you through rough times.
Mostly, this is standard self-help
material. Osteen touches on a more deeply and fundamentally Christian
topic in the chapter on serving others. The Bible
repeatedly describes God
as a helper of the poor, widowed, orphan and oppressed. He repeatedly expresses
the pleasure he takes in His people when they help needy people.
Though he doesn’t devote a chapter too it, Osteen emphasizes the need
to surround yourself with good people. You need to spend time with people who
will challenge and encourage you. Spend as much time as you can with people you
want to be like.
Joel Osteen also wrote I Declare.
If you’re interested in this book, you may also be interested in
Osteen, Joel. You Can, You Will:
8 Undeniable Qualities of a Winner. New York: Faith Words, 2014.
Sunday, April 13, 2014
It's Not About Me by Max Lucado
Monday, November 8, 2010
Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs
When I first heard about this book a few years ago, it was misrepresented a little. There was a lot of discussion about the concept that wives should give their husbands unconditional respect. This was a novel idea, which may be why it got most of the attention, and many women met it with confusion and suspicion.
The book has just as much to say to husbands, and it directs them to give unconditional love to their wives. In fact, as the title implies, love and respect go hand in hand.
The basic premise is that women value love and men value respect. This leads them to have very different perspectives. In a marriage, these differing perspectives can cause serious misunderstanding that spin out of control.
Eggerichs refers to this situation as the crazy cycle. Trying to get love from their husbands, women do things that seem disrespectful to men. Trying to get respect from their wives, men do things that seem unloving to their wives. Without live, wives react without respect. Without respect, husbands act without live. Unless one of the spouses steps up to try something different, this cycle accelerates, damaging the marriage.
That leads to the alternative, which Eggerichs calls the energizing cycle. A wife’s respect motivates her husband’s love. A husband’s love motivates his wife’s respect. I doesn’t matter which spouse starts, but someone has to start even though it can be difficult. Eggerichs' confidence that this will work is in his assumption that each spouse has good will. It not a spouse’s intent to be disrespectful or unloving, they’re just trying a misguided strategy to get the respect or love they desire. When one spouse makes the effort to treat the other respectfully or lovingly, the other will be won over and respond with love or respect. It is an application to marriage of Zig Ziglar’s axiom that you can get what you want by helping others get what they want. A couple that makes a concerted effort to treat each other this way can keep themselves energized and spend a lot less time on the crazy cycle.
In the life of a Christian, there is a relationship that is even more important than the marriage. Our relationship with God is the basis of the rewarded cycle. Regardless of how our spouse reacts, when we treat them with love and respect, we are being loving, respectful and obedient to God. God, who is looking to give eternal rewards to his children for good works, takes pleasure in this. (Eggerichs’ isn’t saying we earn salvation through any kind of good work because that is the free gift of God in Christ and something we could never get on our own merits.) This life of obedience can lead to a freedom, maturity and relationship with God that is joyful and valuable even for those who can draw their spouses onto the energizing cycle.
Most of the chapters are devoted to the energizing cycle and how wives can show respect to their husbands and husbands can show respect to their wives. Eggerichs uses helpful anagrams. Each of these chapters ends with a short list of practical ways to show love or respect to a spouse. The appendices also include ways to remind ourselves to be loving or respectful and to ask for the love or respect we need.
If you’re interested in this book, you may also be interested in
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Wednesday, May 27, 2020
Thursday, April 5, 2012
Creative Living for Today by Maxwell Maltz
Thursday, June 4, 2020
500 Books Reviewed on Keenan's Book Reviews
500 Books Reviewed on Keenan’s Book
Reviews
I’ve posted reviews of 500 books on this blog. Here are links to the 50 most recent posts. Further down are links to more reviews.
First Time Reviews
A Mind for Numbers by Barbara A. Oakley
Anxious
for Nothing by Max Lucado
Become
a Better You by Joel Osteen
The
Beethoven Factor by Paul
Pearsall
Bigger than Life by Marilyn Cannaday
Billion Dollar Whale by Tom Wright and
Bradley Hope
Bored and Brilliant by Manoush Zomorodi
Chief
Engineer by Erica Wagner
The
Computers of Star Trek by
Lois Gresh & Robert Weinberg
Contents
Under Pressure by Sylvia F.
Munson
Enchantress
of Numbers by Jennifer
Chiaverini
Feeding
the Fire by Mark E. Eberhart
The Frackers by Gregory Zuckerman
Get Your Sh*t Together by Sarah Knight
The
Girls of Atomic City by
Denis Kiernan
Happiness
is a Choice by Barry Neil
Kaufman
Haunted
Jefferson City by Janice
Tremeear
The Instinct to Heal by David
Servan-Schreiber
It’s Not Always Depression by Hilary
Jacobs Hendel
The
Johnstown Flood by David
McCollough
Late Bloomers by Rich Karlgaard
Learn
Python 3 the Hard Way by Zed
A. Shaw
Living Low Carb by Johnny Bowden
Lost Connections by Hari Johnson
Loving
in Flow by Susan K. Perry
Making
the American Body by
Jonathan Black
The Math Myth and Other STEM Delusions
by Andrew Hacker
Metering for America by Alfred Leif
Move
Ahead with Possibility Thinking by Robert H. Schuller
Pascal’s
Wager by James A. Connor
The Pleasure of Finding Things Out by
Richard P. Feynman
Plotting and Writing Suspense Fiction by
Patricia Highsmith
The
Revenge of Analog by David
Sax
Scan
Artist by Marcia Biederman
Scott
Pilgrim's Finest Hour by
Bryan Lee O'Malley
Smarter
Faster Better by Charles
Duhigg
Super
Attractor by Gabrielle
Bernstein
Unimaginable by Jeremiah H. Johnston
Why
We Get Fat and What to Do About It by Gary Taubes
Write
Naked by Jennifer Probst
You
are a Badass Every Day by
Jen Sincero
Additional
and Expanded Reviews
The
Introvert’s Way by Sophia
Dembling
Continuation of list of 500 books reviewed
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Into the Depths of God by Calvin Miller
I’ve wanted to read this book again since the first time I read it. I’m not sure why I was drawn back to a book that challenged me to live a kind of life I wasn’t leading, nor is it easy. Even so, I hunger and thirst for God, like every other Christian, and find myself seeking more of the One for whom my heart most yearns.
Miller begins by challenging worldliness. He puts it more elegantly than that. We live in an age of that values pleasure, material wealth, and making the most of the moment. Even spirituality is focused on how it makes us feel good, though it is rarely so blunt. The alternative to these things is a deeper relationship with the One who satisfies because of who He is.
I’m particularly challenged by Millers take on self-denial. He is far from ascetic. If anything, he is an advocate of art, desire, engagement, and action. Self-denial for a Christian isn’t about the sins we give up (though we should eschew sin); it’s about the things we take up as part of the new life we have. We love God more than any other thing. We see to please Him and obey him rather than to please people. We seek His will instead of ours.
This kind of godliness, this ravenous hunt for more of God, does not make use remote from the world. It draws us into the work God is doing in the world. Christ took on humanity and entered our world to save people and part of what He want His saved people to do is continue the work of saving people until He comes again. I’m reminded of how Jesus said he saw the work His Father was doing and He did the same work. That is how Christians are supposed to be. Each of has a calling; we see some work our Father is doing and we are to do it to as imitators of our savior.
It’s not dogged work. It should be joyous living. Whatever we do, we should do with as much excellence, beauty and art as we can because we are in a relationship with the most beautiful One, the author of beauty in nature and the ultimate inspiration for beauty in art. A Christian’s calling is the most imaginative, creative and fulfilling thing he can do.
It is not an easy life to live. It goes against the grain of the world. It takes us out of the insular coziness churches. We must face truths than can make us uncomfortable. We must humbly acknowledge God and our need for Him in everything.
I fear I’ve made it sound esoteric. Focusing on intimacy with God who is infinite, but deigned to take on humanity and suffer the punishment for our sins so we could have an eternal relationship with Him, seems a world away from helping our neighbors in need, serving the sick, and standing up for the oppressed. Yet in deeper living, these seemingly disparate things are intimately linked. When we abide in Christ, He enables us to live this life of service, and in working close to Him this way, we deepen our relationship with him.
It’s rare for me to read a book twice. I think I could read Into the Depths of God a third time and get more out of it. It whets my appetite for God.
You can find my previous, brief review of this book here.
If you’re interested in this book, you may also be interested in
The Great Divorce by C. S. Lewis
The Joy of Supernatural Thinking by Bill Bright
Walking with God by John Eldredge
Tuesday, October 16, 2012
Reading Like a Writer by the Aptly Named Francine Prose
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
The Thin Man (Film)
This film is based on the excellent Dashiell Hammett book of the same title. It was so popular MGM made five sequels from 1936 to 1947: After the Thin Man, Another Thin Man, Shadow of the Thin Man, The Thin Man Goes Home and Song of the Thin Man. The writers changed, but most of the films were directed by W. S. Van Dyke and all of them starred William Powell and Myrna Loy as the charming couple, Nick and Nora Charles.
It is the charm of the Charles’ that makes the movies such a pleasure to watch. The characters have great chemistry Hammett’s book; Powell and Loy bring it to the screen. Part of their charm comes from their witty banter. I think part of it comes from the happy marriage of the couple. They delight in each other, tolerate each other’s weaknesses and gently push each other to be better. And though they fit traditional gender roles, as you would expect at the time the films were made, and it is clear that Nick is a professional detective and Nora an amateur, they seem more equal than most fictional couples in today’s films and television.
As a series, the films handle the couple in another unusual way. They age. They age naturally. In the first pair if films, as in the book, Nora is a young heiress and Nick older and worldlier. In the middle pair of films, they’re parents of a young son. By the last film, they’re an established couple and even Nora can’t follow the slang of the hipster characters.
The chemistry between Powell and Loy is great. Some other quality actors appear in the films as well, like Maureen O’Sullivan in The Thin Man. The sequels include performances from James Stewart and Keenan Wynn. Some uncredited (and not as great) appearances include Shemp Howard and a guy who I think might be Tor Johnson.
The crime solving in The Thin Man sticks close to the book, but adapted to work well on film. As crime stories, the sequels vary in quality, complexity and suspense. If you’re looking for a great mystery, you may want to look elsewhere. Crime solving is the backbone of the plots of these films, but the plots are largely an excuse to watch Nick and Nora do their thing.
(Thanks, Roger, for loaning me the box set of these films on DVD.)